Bedtime stories to read alone, or with him/her.. Maybe you have read it already, but anyway.. ;)
Men want sex, women want romance. Sometimes it seems like they came from different planets, like men came from Mars and women came from Venus. Often we don´t understand the difference between these two kind of ways to approach one´s sexuality. If women don´t deeply understand this fundamental difference, they often underestimate the meaning of sex for men, and find men shallow creatures, who only want one thing. When women realize the true reasons, why so many men seem only want sex, they begin to tone down their criticism. A closer orientation to historical development and social conditioning, that base on differences between the two gender, help women to understand that sexual excitement can be considered as a key, which helps many men to get contacted with their tender and loving feelings and to be able to use them.
Sex helps men to open up their heart, and it enables him to experience his feelings of love and also his hunger for love. Ironical is, that particulaly sex opens a possibility for the man to feel his need for love, whereas receiving love will help women to experience their need for sex.
Men often misinterpret womens true need for romance and may think instead that she just denies to have sex. When a man wants to have sex and she just isn´t in the mood, he may easily misinterpret it and feel rejected. He doesn´t automatically understand, that she needs to fill up her need for romance and love, before she can feel her own sexual desires. While she wants functional communication with her partner in order to feel loved and to love, he wants sex. Of course, he can also feel that he is receiving love in many other ways too, but the most powerful way, with what the love of a woman can touch his soul and open his feelings, is good sex.
